Inevitably, it is someone else who tells the room that you practice TCC. Usually my wife does this task for me.
I have NO idea why she does, as I've asked her repeatedly not to. Be that as it may...
What usually happens is she's deep in a conversation on the other side of the room and I'm doing something completely different, usually having a good time and a couple of drinks, talking too loudly, having fun, when I'll hear "Honey? Come over here a minute...."
That has been the beginning of what would have to amount to a time period of at least a month out of my life, if you add them all together, that I have spent trying to explain TCC to the unwashed masses.
I have, hopefully, convinced her to stop doing this and she hasn't for at least a year. I hope this continues.
I too am in the position of not wanting to answer these questions anymore. I hate to say it but I am.
It's bad enough when you have a group of polite listeners who simply accept the idea that you're a freak of nature, let you say what you are going to say about the subject, nod and smile politely and forget all about it two seconds after you've finished talking.
At least with a crowd like that it's over fast and you can go back to your partying fun.
What's worse is when you get the hard stylist in the crowd. You know the guy. He's the one who then wants to fight you, right there and then.
Na (oh, sorry, Chin Na in this style) has saved me many hours of grief in those instances where I was unable to convince the inebriated tough guy that this is neither the time or the place to be attempting to demonstrate martial arts prowess. Usually, once you've locked a joint or two and have shown them just how painful that can be, they get the idea and move on.
An equal displeasure is the hard style guy who wants to convince you verbally that your style of martial art is nothing but a dance and you can't fight with it.
I have found that smiling and agreeing with them usually keeps the situation from backsliding into the situation described above. If you try to tell them that they are wrong, 95% of them turn into hard style guy type #1 from above and the inevitable "I'll prove it to you!" leads in a circular path to the above mentioned use of Chin Na to shut down the situation, which proves your point, unfortunately it's only to someone who is usually too drunk to remember the lesson the next morning anyway.
But by far the worst people to get trapped into this conversation with are what we used to lovingly refer to as "Crystal Wavers". These are the New Age people who think TCC IS just a dance done for health and longevity with no martial aspects required or wanted in their dance routines and who carry crystals in their palms (on necklaces, in their hair, between their toes, who knows, who cares) while doing thier fluffy looking forms.
These guys are the worst possible ones to run into, in my personal humble opinion. They will go toe to toe with you right there in front of everyone and tell you that you are wrong and your brand of TCC is absolute crap.
How are you supposed to respond to this?
I have no idea. I've found a big smile and a quiet, "Let's agree to disagree, shall we?" usually just don't work.
It's amazing, those New Age folks are so pacifistic in thier TCC yet so ready to argue with you if they think you're challenging their "art".
I'm to the point where I am willing to simply shake my head and walk away from this argument. It's just not worth my effort anymore to try to convince people who don't want to be convinced that they're wrong.
So I practice the ultimate art of TCC, I yield, I conquer.
I doubt there is any one phrase or theory that would shut these people up once they get started. I've found the best way to get out of this situation is simply to avoid it in the first place.
If someone asks me in earnest about TCC and really wants to talk about it, I'll chew their ear off. But most folks simply don't care or if they do they want to convince you why they're right and you're wrong when it comes to TCC. These people I'm not interested in talking to at all.